Monday, August 27, 2018

Self-love is Important, Self-love is not Selfish

📍Bangkok, Thailand

Recently, I've been through a TOUGH time and honestly it's made me feel like life is unfair. I'm a person who dwells (deeply) in the past, I know it's not good. The more I think about how good the past was, the more I suffer. Because, life is unpredictable. Today we laugh, tomorrow we cry, I've learnt 100% that I shouldn't hold on to what is unstable. I'm a Leo woman, we are the king of the jungle. When we do something, we put effort 100%, am I right Leo? 

However, once we reach the top of the world, when we fall, we f**** fall to hell. It's been months of stress and resentful. To be honest, I felt like a loser. Why? Because I've given priority to others too much. I love people more than myself. Have you ever said something like "I love you so much, why are you doing this to me?" The heartbroken, yea. But, there's no one to blame because I was the one who expected too high from others. Now I realize all the quotes on Pinterest "You will feel free once you stop expecting from others" I know what it's like, and that's something I want to do it from now on. 

The Equinox Fashion by The Styleograph
Coat- Boohoo
Shoes- Charles & Keith
Bag- Grafea
Eyewear- Carins

I don't know if you are the same, but I always blame myself when shit happens. What happen? What have I done? Maybe I'm not good enough? I think all the right and wrong reasons just to convince myself what happened was something the another party sacrificed for my happiness...It's bullshit. SERIOUSLY. I'm not gonna tell what's happened to my life, but I've come to the conclusion that 'this thought inside my head' will be gone like forever. I will never blame myself ever again. Think about it, we are all selfish at some points. So, I don't wanna waste my time thinking negatively. 

I've learnt to love myself even more now. Even though, it's not easy to forget, I'm trying to improve myself to be stronger and care about myself and my feelings more. Trust me, for weeks, I felt like a f***loser, and I don't wanna be that person anymore. I have forgiven and never hate anybody. I just want to focus on me. 

Photographed by The Styleograph


  1. Self-love is the most pure and precious forms of love! As we say, in order to truly love others, you have to love yourself and that's a golden rule :)

    With love and light,

    Patricia & Miguel

  2. It's so easy to think that self-love means selfish but it is completely wrong. It is hard not to blame yurslef because we are humans and it's kind of hard especially when there is noone to blame so we think all is our fault and all we did was wrong
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  3. Self love is definitely not selfish! At the end of the day you need to love yourself before you can love someone else!


  4. Your blog post was so inspiring! Sometimes we have to take time to focus on ourselves to see the beauty of life. Thanks for sharing. :)

  5. You are absolutely right!We are the king of the jungle, i Inspired from your blog, you are looking so beautiful

  6. Oh dear, I'm really sorry for the tough time you've been through. But hey, if you've been through hell, keep smiling, because eventually you will go to a better place. I know some shit can't be ignored, but focus on yourself and everything else will fall into place. Much love.

    A free soul.

  7. FAbbbbulous outfit!!! AMAZZZING pinstripe and lavender bag! SOOO chic with your hair!
    xoBeckerman Girls

  8. Wonderful photos my dear! So stylish outfit!

  9. you look amazing! I love your outfit ♥♥♥!

  10. Such a great post - it's so important to make sure you take time to love yourself. Hope you're feeling better and things are on the up lovely!

    Ashleigh x