Friday, May 6, 2016

Silence Is The Real Confidence



To tell you the truth, I have had a really tough week (s), a really tough tough one that makes me feel as if I want to stop thinking about everything. I wish I could tell my head to stop producing such disgusting thoughts, curiosity, etc. There's nothing about work though, I am talking about 'people' here. Have you ever had the moment, which you wish you could disappear somewhere, where nobody knows who you are? I have. Apart from social media that made me feel overwhelmed 2 weeks ago, now I am dealing with another new challenge, which involved in those who have so much of bullshit to tell others. My instinct is never wrong, and it pissed me the f*** off when others have a distorted perception about me. I have had to deal with this stuff week after week, but now I guess I am fine. Why? Because I have decided to let such toxic go. Like they say "Confidence is silence, insecurity is loud


YOU DON'T NEED APPROVAL FROM OTHERS


I have been reading a book call "Detox your ego" and I am in LOVE with it. It is such a good book, like a self-reflection that speaks my emotion. When we need others to accept us, we always seek for every evidence just to boost our self-confident and being loved. However, don't you think it is too much? When we want people to love us so bad that we will try every way just to hear the beautiful words from their mouths. Really?...The book says that such behavior is a certain level of ego. I am not going to lie, but I have a high one (no offence). We seek for the compliments, too much to let the feelings run wild in our hearts. I think this is true because that is how I feel right now. I need others to understand, and to say 'yes' to my opinions. That is a sign of 'too much' In fact, we don't need that much, do we? We can't tell 100 people to love us because we all have different thoughts. Some may like, while some may jealous. Some may love, some may hate. That is the fact. Stop being protective about ourselves and be more open for the unexpected stuff. We are who we are, and we don't need any more bullshit in our lives. 


HOW TO DEAL WITH THOSE WHO TALK SHIT?



It happens in every industry, including fashion. He says this, she says that, etc. Do I like it? No, I am not. But can I control others? No, I can't. This is the fact. Let's be honest, shall we? It has happened to me at my work place, and I can feel it. I am not a talkative person, and I don't even mess around with others, still there always be someone who wants to be you. So, he/she will do everything to take you down. This is the competition. Jealousy is the cause, and in my case, it is. It made me frustrated a few hours ago, but the thing is "those who believe in the rumours, while they don't even know who we are, are such an idiot" I was tempted to start a fire, but what will I get afterward? I would rather be silence, and let them talk, well just keep talking because I don't really care. If those who listen believe in whatever they are told, then good luck with your life 'faggot'.



Skirt- Alice's Pig





45 comments :

  1. Great photos:) xx
    Bianka
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  2. Such a great post! Love your thoughts! You look great too!

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  3. you look super trendy my dear! I'm just in love with your shirt :D

    I'm totally agree with your words!!! super positive!

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  4. Lovveee!! Your blog is amazing!!!
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  5. What an awesome look and such a cool location! Thanks for all the advice, I loved this post! It's true that we can't please everyone. Have a great weekend, girl! xoxo
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  6. Such a great outfit! Love this skirt.
    xo Julia
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  7. This outfit is pretty amazing, I really like it! Thjanks for sharing it
    Have a lovely day,
    Madalena

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  8. Such a quirky look, love it!

    xx
    Xin

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  9. You look stunning great to have that mentality.

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  10. Beautiful outfit! :)

    XX,

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  11. Hello,

    Beautiful pics ! :D

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  12. I love this look! I especially like the leather jacket addition!!x

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  13. This is such a great & insightful post. Thanks for sharing. I love the skirt and your whole ensemble is amazing <3

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  14. Amazing look! :)
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  15. i've definitely had days when i'd rather go live somewhere where i'm not known, ha. but it really is important to let all toxic things and people go, it's something i've been learning to do in recent years as well:-) confidence is silence, insecurity is loud is such a good saying and i'll have to check out the book you're talking about as well! sad to hear you've had hard weeks, hope it gets better and don't hesitate to get in touch if you want to talk! we could catch up! :-) xxx

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    1. Thank you so much Laura :) I will def inbox you hehe ^^

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  16. this kind of stuff happens in any work situation.. it does get stressful if you take it personally every time! thats great that you are reading to de-stress yourself :)
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  17. Great post! Love the images as well. Hope you have an awesome new week.

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  19. Hunny, such is life. However, one thing that sometimes keeps me going is that fact that I have the right to choose my battles. Some issues are just not worth the hassle or attention demanded. Besides that, Righting someone's perception of you might not be your task in some circumstances. Sometimes you have to give them the benefit of the doubt - The opportunity for them to eventually figure.

    Hope you're much better now.


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  20. Great piece girl! I think the biggest part of growing up is learning to accept yourself and to separate yourself with those who fuel negative energy. No body has time for that and good on you for writing about it.

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  21. Beautiful look love the skirt
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  22. Everything looks soooo amazzzzzing! LOVE the leather jacket and brown skirt! AWESOME!!!!
    kisses
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  23. Sorry to hear you've been having a tough time lately! You're right though, it's better to just let it go and rise above it :)

    On an outfit note I love the pattern on your skirt :)

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  24. Very, very cool outfit and photos! Love your skirt :)
    xox

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  25. well said and i couldn't agree more. Ignore the haters, they really are just jealous! you are fab!

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  26. Chic style babe! Happy Monday!
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  27. Chic style babe! Happy Monday!
    Xo, Christianne
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  28. You look great.
    Greetings.


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  29. That's life. Haters gonna hate, she/he declaimed that you are upper then em. Keep spirit & enjoy your life :)
    Cool outfit anyway :)

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  30. I absolutely agree that silence is the real confidence. In life there will always be people who hate wether you are doing good or not. I love the suede skirt.x

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  31. I love this post for so many reasons! First, I love how open you are here, discussing a situation that all of us have encountered or will at some point, unfortunately. I couldn't agree more that gossip and slander are all stemmed from jealousy and it's truly sickening. I never understood why people have to go to such great lengths to try and bring someone down. If you don't like someone, then don't befriend them or have nothing to do with them, simple as that. I know we can all become insecure at times, especially with social media highlighting the absolute best part of everyone's daily life, but honestly, we ALL have amazing and unique qualities that no one else can offer and so, I don't understand why we can't just embrace the gifts we have and encourage those around us, too. I believe what's meant to be ours, will be ours and no one on this earth has the power to prevent it from entering our hands, except us! There is plenty of glitter in the jar! I'm so sorry you have to experience such childish behavior, but you are handling yourself with such class by not feeding into the situation. Continue to keep your head high because you are fabulous, which brings me to this look and how much I love it! I love that shirt paired with the skirt and how you've knotted it to give it a relaxed feel. I also love the addition of your signature leather piece, so fab and a great way to add an edgy touch to the overall look! Thanks so much for sharing, gorgeous, and I hope you have the BEST week ahead!

    XO,

    Jalisa
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    1. Aww Jalisa, thank you so much for your kind words. Sometimes, this s** just makes me feel down because it is so not right how others can talk about me when they don't even know who I am lol. Thank you so much for your words, and yes I will keep my head up high! <3

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  32. Awww. Hope things are better now. All that drama can drive a person mad. But you look super cute and stylish as always. Love this look! It all goes so well together <3

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  33. I love the confidence in this post! I totally agree that sometimes the best response is no response. And your look is totally on point!

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  34. I love this outfit :) & always keep your head up...people will always try to tear you down forget em!

    - Mariah-Ruthel
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  35. Lovely outfit, your skirt is gorgeous. Kisses :)

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  36. So cool and stylish! love the skirt!

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  37. Such an effortless look and I love your attitude on confidence :). Thanks for sharing!

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  38. Detoxing our ego is such an interesting and useful concept ! Loved it =)

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  39. Your look is amazing1!

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  40. I'm not sure confidence is always silent, but I like that you're choosing not to care about the gossiping jerks in your life.
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