Saturday, December 19, 2015

Self-Esteem in Style & Appearance

Self-esteem is a key of life. It is very important for us to have a high self-esteem in order to feel happy in every aspect of life. I am from the country where appearance is what people make a comment, and judge one another. Even myself, sometimes can be categorized as chubby, or fat because I don't look that skinny compare to the standard of the girls in a society. People prefer a girl who looks Korean-like with a V-shape face and big eye contact lenses. Anyway, what is the standard? Who the hell comes up with the ideal numbers or how we should look like? The society is now tamed with commercial and social media that control our visions, and the ideal of the words 'style&beauty' Some may feel upset due to the volume of the images, however, nobody can let us feel that way if we have our guards up all the time. 

Self- Confident

Self-confidence is powerful because it empowers the spirit within. In terms of style, we should feel confident in whatever we want to wear despite the comments from others. C'mon, we only live once, so why not feel happy about it? 

Personally, I have never let anyone make me feel like shit, even though, I consider about those words sometimes. It is alright to think about what people say about you, and it is alright to feel down about those negative comments. It is normal since we are a human-being, we have feelings, and we can choose what to 'keep in our heads' too. What about the beautiful models, and instagrammers whose life looks so perfect, and so do their outfits? The truth is, we all can feel good about ourselves without materialistic attitudes. Don't have too much budget for the high-end brands? Just DIY, or mix and match whatever we want as long as it doesn't affect our income. Stop caring what people think, because we are in the prime time of life. The time we spend thinking about what others are thinking about us is totally a waste of time. In fact, no one really cares because life is more than just the items we wear. 

Beauty from Within

I have seen a lot of people who lack confidence. Some have no idea what to do with their faces, while some are trying too hard, and their faces look so 'orange' instead of beauty healthy look. It is normal to put all the cosmetics on the faces, but only some teens can look like 30 years old, though they are actually 15. In Asia, some girls are really addicted to the mobile app where they can change the skin colour (whitening), fix the blemish, instant contact lenses, etc. It is normal to use those applications, but ask yourself if you really want to look that different from the real you? 

I have seen the case, when the real person looks totally different from the social media, and it makes me feel awkward...If we can't feel satisfied with our faces from the within, how are we gonna feel good about ourselves in a long run? I used to put a heavy eyeliner on for years since I thought it made me look cool, and I just wanted to hide my real identity. The more I grow up, the more I realize that this is just for temporary. It took time to feel good about myself, because I tried to apply makeup (only eyeliner) less every time I went out. At first, I felt like 'meh' without the signature eyes, and I didn't have a confidence to make an eye contact with others at all. Yet, I tried and now I feel good about how I look, even without any cosmetics on my face. I have started to take care myself, including the facial treatments, vitamins I have taken, as well as, exercising. I just want to look young as long as I can. 


  1. You look FABULOUS! ♥

    Happy Weekend!
    xoxo Suzy ( ˘ ³˘)♥

  2. You said some great things in your post! I agree it's important to grow our own self esteem, more focused on who we are as a person than how we look. And to remember that a lot of what we see online is edited, filtered and in some cases photoshopped! Real life is never perfect, and we shouldn't get too down on ourselves when we aren't perfect either. We are all unique and amazing in our own ways.

    Away From The Blue Blog

  3. Great read babe. I'd never consider you chubby, that's just crazy. Bloggers I've met life tell me I'm much skinnier than in my blog posts. I love your orange. Beautiful.

  4. What a great post! so inspiring :)

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  5. Another inspiring post, Gail! Love those colours! Happy holidays, dear! xoxo

  6. Love the look !


  7. My favourite point in this post is how you mention that feeling temporarily down about negative comments is okay, however allowing them to stay in your mind for longer isn't - that's very true! I love this bold red colour on you Gail :)

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice

  8. Looking fab na ja!!! Love the red blazer <3 I agree, self-esteem is very important. That's one of the most important things I've learned in life.

  9. Self esteem is key to remain who u are and still survive! We all adapt but not become someone our true self can't recognise. U r right about getting affected by negativity but we got to fight!! Love ur outfit and the pictures!!

  10. so so chic outfit!!! happy monday!!)))) xoxo <3

  11. This post is lovely, so inspiring!

    That outfit is also so suave, it looks fabulous on you! c:

    Little Moon Elephant

  12. Cute hat and nice blazer :)

    Maria V.

  13. confidence makes any outfit ten times better! love this post and and all the messages you write about these days :) Have a great holiday season!

  14. you couldn't have said it better gail, having certain charisma in you is way more attractive than having a good look on the outside!

  15. What an inspirational post!! I used to feel the need to change my appearance a lot when I was younger, but as I've got older, I've learned to become more comfortable in my skin! You look absolutely stunning as always hun- the red jacket and the hat have a really cool band vibe to them :)

    Merry Christmas gorgeous!

    Rachel xx

  16. Perfect style ! Your jacket is beautiful and I really love your pants. You are very chic :)

  17. This is one hell of a brilliant post Gail! I definitely agree with you on comericals supposedly making out that everyone should look perfect and be skinny etc. But they are trying to hide the true world where people who have curves or are skinny etc. Everyone is their own person with their own unique personality whether they like to be skinny or love their curves, or those people who have beautiful curves and think their fat. They care way too much on how they may look to others and don't care about their true feelings themselves. People who feel this way need to think for themselves and not care what people think. As people who judge others clearly hate themselves and try and hate on others to make themselves feel better when they are actually making themselves feel worse about themselves. My point is, people should look and feel how they want to be and not be pressured to look a way that is advrtised and should be the way they want to look. Hope that makes sense hahaa Basically I love your post yet again Gail xD

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