Self-esteem is a key of life. It is very important for us to have a high self-esteem in order to feel happy in every aspect of life. I am from the country where appearance is what people make a comment, and judge one another. Even myself, sometimes can be categorized as chubby, or fat because I don't look that skinny compare to the standard of the girls in a society. People prefer a girl who looks Korean-like with a V-shape face and big eye contact lenses. Anyway, what is the standard? Who the hell comes up with the ideal numbers or how we should look like? The society is now tamed with commercial and social media that control our visions, and the ideal of the words 'style&beauty' Some may feel upset due to the volume of the images, however, nobody can let us feel that way if we have our guards up all the time.
Self-confidence is powerful because it empowers the spirit within. In terms of style, we should feel confident in whatever we want to wear despite the comments from others. C'mon, we only live once, so why not feel happy about it?
Personally, I have never let anyone make me feel like shit, even though, I consider about those words sometimes. It is alright to think about what people say about you, and it is alright to feel down about those negative comments. It is normal since we are a human-being, we have feelings, and we can choose what to 'keep in our heads' too. What about the beautiful models, and instagrammers whose life looks so perfect, and so do their outfits? The truth is, we all can feel good about ourselves without materialistic attitudes. Don't have too much budget for the high-end brands? Just DIY, or mix and match whatever we want as long as it doesn't affect our income. Stop caring what people think, because we are in the prime time of life. The time we spend thinking about what others are thinking about us is totally a waste of time. In fact, no one really cares because life is more than just the items we wear.
Beauty from Within
I have seen a lot of people who lack confidence. Some have no idea what to do with their faces, while some are trying too hard, and their faces look so 'orange' instead of beauty healthy look. It is normal to put all the cosmetics on the faces, but only some teens can look like 30 years old, though they are actually 15. In Asia, some girls are really addicted to the mobile app where they can change the skin colour (whitening), fix the blemish, instant contact lenses, etc. It is normal to use those applications, but ask yourself if you really want to look that different from the real you?
I have seen the case, when the real person looks totally different from the social media, and it makes me feel awkward...If we can't feel satisfied with our faces from the within, how are we gonna feel good about ourselves in a long run? I used to put a heavy eyeliner on for years since I thought it made me look cool, and I just wanted to hide my real identity. The more I grow up, the more I realize that this is just for temporary. It took time to feel good about myself, because I tried to apply makeup (only eyeliner) less every time I went out. At first, I felt like 'meh' without the signature eyes, and I didn't have a confidence to make an eye contact with others at all. Yet, I tried and now I feel good about how I look, even without any cosmetics on my face. I have started to take care myself, including the facial treatments, vitamins I have taken, as well as, exercising. I just want to look young as long as I can.