Isn't it frustrating when the negative comments popping up anonymously on our blogs? Even Instagram ones, it is just so unexpected that why someone out there would leave such a horrible comment like that. The reaction when I read the very first comment from the random hater was "oh shit...what have I done to you to make you hate me..." Just once sentence could make me feel discouraged because that was something I had never expected. Yet, again, another dislike on YouTube channel, which I didn't expect either..You may see me looking so cheerful on The Equinox Fashion Instagram, however, the reality during the past couple of days was I felt like shit. Well, I guess in fact, it is normal to come across the hatred words online because it is undeniable that we have put ourselves in this situation. Hello, it is an online world! We can be accessed from every part of this planet. If we hold ourselves back because of this issue, we had better get over it ASAP. The question is 'ARE YOU A QUITTER?
THEY DO NOT KNOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE, SO JUST F*** IT
Who on earth wouldn't feel down when coming across the negative comments? I think 99% of people would feel uninspired when they read those words sent from the strangers. However, they just don't know us in person, do they? Even if they know 'you', 'me' in real life, then so what? There are good and bad people in this world, and so do positive and negative comments. Admit it, we cannot make every single person out there love us. So, there will always be those who love what we do, and those who just dislike us for no reason. Maybe it is our outfits that look weird in their eyes, or just the lifestyle they wish they had. Though, I am a type of those who do not really give a shit about anything, sometimes I feel sensitive over the pessimistic comments too. Like I said, they don't know who we really are, they are not raised with us, so why we care?
1 comment can let us down, that is the fact..However, you gotta realize that the higher you are from the ground, the more people would want to drag you down. Why? Maybe jealousy? Hate? Or just 'I don't like your face' really. Successful people I have read their books are fighters. Most of them have been through the negative comments, even the worst ones that make them question whether what they do is right. Yet, they are not a quitter, so they just don't care. Negative words online is like a troll, and those who love trolling others are like those who are seeking for something to complete their lives. Instead of focusing these negative comments, why not appreciated those who love and support us? I think it always makes me feel better because the fact is there are also people who love me.
IGNORE THE NEGATIVE COMMENT, BUT NEVER FORGET TO LEARN FROM THE NEGATIVE FEEDBACK
Confront the fear, and accept the truth that negative comment and feedback are different. Negative words are like 'yep, I know you hate me' But feedback is the essential thing that we can learn from it. Some people would do anything to avoid the bad feedback because they don't want to accept the fact that what they do is just not up to the standard of others. Leave the ego behind, and learn from the mistakes. I love asking people for the feedback, both good and bad ones. Of course, it makes me feel blessed to know that people love my work, but it doesn't get me down when they criticize my work either. Why? Because I love it. I can use those feedback to improve The Equinox Fashion blog, or even the perspective of my life. Whenever, I hear people trying to correct my work, I always 'listen' No argue? Nope, I prefer to keep calm, and keep those arguments inside my mouth. I have a bad mouth, and I do not really hold my words back, but when it comes to work, I prefer to shut my mouth and use my ears instead.
My best advice from me to just relax and move on. You are not alone :) Even a big YouTuber, or musician can be judged my people they don't know, but guess what they don't really let their guards down. It is normal, and this is the online fact. People will like you, or hate you, it is none of your business to care what other people think about you. Instead of listening to those negative attitudes, why not spending your time thinking how can you improve what you do to become even better and better? Appreciate your supports can always help in uplifting the spirit as well :)