Monday, August 29, 2016

We All Need that B**** Attitude

I am not gonna lie, that (good) bitchy attitude has sculptured me to become a strong person nowadays. Bitch has three meanings for me; 1) the terms I (or we) call the BFF, 2) tough, strong, high-standard, fighter, 3) S*U* So 'we all have that bitch attitude' means the moment when we just have to step out from the crowd, and stand for ourselves. Admit it ladies, this world is not a sweet fantasy like in a cartoon. In contrast, it is the world mixed with good and bad people. The more I grow up, the more I realize that it is all about a competition, even in the blogging industry. We can't just be kind to every single person because being too kind means letting the guard down. As a result, it may lead to the point of being taken advantage. I am kind, but I have never let my guard down because I have this bitchy mode on literally to protect myself from being let down and disappointed. Similar to work, I am picky and bossy and I know that being like this will lead to the great performance of the project I have worked on. 


I am a very straight up person, so I always say what I think. It happens all the time that I don't really smile, but tend to say things bluntly, which other may misunderstand my honesty...Seriously, my eyes and street fashion style sometimes put people off because I don't look friendly, but I am pretty laid back indeed (lol) The personality behinds The Equinox Fashion is real and I don't hold back my tongue. I am very tough, independent and sincere person. I had been taken advantages for so damn long, and it made me realized "If I am being too easy for others???" And yes, I did. My relationships were screwed up because I was always there for the guys. My works were copied because I told every secret behinds the success. WTF!? So, here is the new me, the whole new person with the attitude because I am now stronger than before. 

Sometimes, life teaches me the very good lessons that got me in tears. From death to backstabbing, I have been through. Like I mentioned, I am very kind person, if you know me. However, I just can't be like that all the time right? If I was being a generous person, saying yes to every task assigned at work, I would end up like a doormat for everyone else. In reality, we need to learn how to reject and say NO to save our ass from many situations. I used to say yes to everything, and guess what? I ended up being a dramatic person. And I will never want to feel that way again and again. 


It is not bad to say what we want, and to do what we want. To be perfectionism, to be whatever we want, there's nothing wrong about it. There is nothing wrong to swear, or to claim for something we deserve. If we don't stand for ourselves, who will? 

Also, I would love to take this opportunity to thank you Hazel M Design for my amazing illo! I really love it :) You guys should check out her profile, as she also does the illustrator for bloggers. Once again, thank you very much Hazel! 


  1. Great motivation girl. I'm all for standing up for what is right and saying what's on my mind. Being silent gets nothing resolved!

  2. This is an honest & straightforward post. Loved reading it. Way to go girl :)

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  3. OMG!!! I agree with everything you said ka. I am exactly the same way!! People say I'm a bitch but I'd rather be honest and be blunt than be all fake. Plus, I always stand up for how I feel or what I believe and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

  4. Oh, yes. We need to unleash that inner biatch because I think it's how we get things done and how we achieve things. Being timid just don't do it.

  5. You look fabulous, Gail! I'm not into bitching even after being in the airline industry for 7 yrs; guess I'm a slow learner. Hahaha! xoxo

  6. I never back down if I'm right and I be dam if someone will great post love the sunnies you look pretty.

  7. I completely agree with you. Sometimes when people are too kind other will take advantage. I have learned through the years that being kind all the time will not make you successful. Only people will use you to their advantage. If you want to be successful you need to be a b*tch sometimes. You need to tell people off if you need to so you can get things done. You can't do everything on your own. You need to say it if you want something. Things don't magically come to you. You have to ask for it.

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  8. you look so fierce! love your hair! :)

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  9. YEAH! Be the Badass Bitch you know you are! I've been told I am bossy which is really being upfront and honest. I love this post and I love you! The definition of a badass! Hehe <3

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  10. Interesting post! Sweet greetings! :))


  11. You're so right !
    Such a great text.
    Love your shirt by the way.

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  13. What a beautiful blue shirts and place!
    Your thinking of Bitch is so good!!!!!


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  16. I second this so much! The only annoying thing is that when a woman stands up for herself and have demands, she's called bitch/bossy. When a man does it, he's just being a man(?). Nevertheless important to not take any bs! Xx

  17. You're very right, girl, and it's funny because I was just talking about this with my husband. I'm a very sweet person, who genuinely loves to support and uplift others, but the moment I realize that someone is not reciprocating or I sense malicious intentions, I step away and if needed, share how I feel unapologetically. It takes a bit to get me to that point, but sometimes you have to because like you've said, people will take advantage of you. My husband, on the other hand, is sometimes TOO nice and people at work do take advantage of him and it gets me so upset! He's working on balancing it out and I'm happy because it's not right when people take kindness for weakness and then wonder why there's so much screwed up, evil people in the world. 9/10 someone screwed them up and they unfortunately didn't look for better ways to cope and heal. Anyway, thanks so much for sharing, beauty, and I hope you're having a great week so far!



  18. Love your write up it speaks volume. Love your outfit as well.

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  19. Oh, this is interesting, as I have also the reputation that I also always say what I think and the people call me as very direct :) I like it you are similar and yes, the b attitude makes sense!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

  20. I agree that being strong and keeping your success to yourself is always a good idea! I have been too nice in the past and have been taken advantage of too. You look gorgeous babe, I love this shirt

    Rachel xx