How to Handle Difficult People at Work

📍 Bangkok, Thailand

Admit it, it is not about work that always gets us frustrated, but 'people' are. No matter how much work we have on a table, just one annoying person can literally drain the energy away. I have both experience working at the cooperate office and managing from home, however, sometimes I do get the feeling that something is not right among those who work together. Frustration and dissatisfaction always happen when a lot of people work together, and that's normal. Because we all have different opinions and we come from a differnt background. I have had such feeling lately (to the point that I let the anger control my mouth and the way I spoke, which was not good. All I ever need these day is a positive vibe) That is why I wanted to share with you how to handle such difficult and toxic people at work. Now I feel better and it is the best relief when that matter has no longer in my head. I still work as usual, but I have found a way to calm down by isolating myself before being consumed by a negative emotion.

Sometimes, when I get annoyed, it is so difficult to keep my mouth shut. I am a very straight up person, so I'm not really afraid to state my opinions. But sometimes the words being spoken out are really not worth it, because it is a waste of time to 'win over' someone who doesn't really matter to our lives. I mean literally, he/she/they and those do not worth our time at all. On the other hand, I wouldn't want someone to shout at me angrily, or rant with lots of F words when frustrated anyway. That's why I think if I were in someone else's shoes facing with myself angrily, I would rather stay calm and walk away. If I want to be treated right, I have to treat other right too. 

SPEAK OR REPLY LESS, NO NEED TO WRITE THE WHOLE PARAGRAPH JUST TO SHOW WHERE YOU STAND. IT IS PEACEFUL TO STAY ON TOP OF THE MOUNTAIN.

Really, sometimes I feel like speaking or writing a message less works so much better than stating the whole paragraph just to claim your reason. Yea, I do have lots of things to clarify, but once I did then who cares? To fight with someone doesn't belong to the same level with you, don't waste the time. It may sounds bad to write this, but to think about myself above others always make me feel calm. One of the books I read suggested that "To stand on top of the mountain and look down below will make you feel calmer than before. Because you are in a different level of others. Therefore, no need to lower yourself in such matter" And I agree to this statement because it always makes me feel better. I don't think that I am better than anyone else, just the 'feeling' of being on top of the world. When the ground is so messed up, but above the cloud or a mountain, you feel so 'peaceful' 

LEARN TO LET GO, BECAUSE WE CAN'T CONTROL ANYBODY

That's right, we can't control anybody. So, it's better to let go of something you can't even change. You know, sometimes you can observe other behavior by just the way they talk. It shows so much of where they come from and how they were raised. It speaks so much of the background.