Normally, I give people a chance like 2 times. Either I try adapting myself to that person, or he/she try getting along with me. If it doesn't work, then the friendship or relationship will never ever gonna happen. The more I grow up, the more I realize that it is OK to cut some people out of my life because; 1) Why waste the time to someone who doesn't deserve it 2) Learn how not to give a f*** is important for the state of mind. It may sounds like I don't care, but it is the truth, because I just can't make everyone to like me anyway. I was really frustrated when people read my messages, but never replied. Or simply stopped talking to me without any reasons. It made me think of the reason why it happened the way it was. This year, somehow will be different, and I have been doing pretty good so far! I am talking to you, from me to you, like a girl's convo here.
*Beware of the strong language*
FRIENDSHIP ONLY COUNTS WHEN YOUR FRIENDS GENUINELY SUPPORT YOU. SO, WHAT IF THEY TALK SHIT? IT'S A SIGN THAT YOU ARE HAVING LOW-QUALITY FRIENDS
I've chosen quality over numbers. I mean, I make lots of connection with people, but I only share my secret to a few. I don't really give a shit if others think I'm mean or arrogant, once I stop talking or hanging out with them. It's just a waste of time really. Once I figure out that I don't really get along or, don't have anything in common to that person afterall, I always take a step back. You don't even have to think if he or she will hate you, because 1) We are all grown up 2) Life is too short 3) If he/she dislikes you, then who cares? Isn't it obvious though? I believe that there always be the way to get back together if people really care for each other. If not, then just fuck it girl.
RELATIONSHIP NOT RELATIONSHIT, IF HE DOESN'T WORTH IT, THEN DON'T WASTE THE TIME
Don't try to hard to get along with someone if it doesn't feel that way. I am 27 year-old, so I'm not like 22 years old girl who can just having fun in the relationship. I mean, I am serious about the relationship because I am getting older, and I don't need a 'boy' in my life. I am not just dating to get to know the another one, but I date because I want to build the relationship, which leads to the word 'family' in the future. It makes me feel frustrated when someone seems to interested but disappears at the end. Like, c'mon why the f*** you wanna talk to me anyway? If he is a cry baby, or seem like he will never be able to responsible for anything, you know he's not the father of your child.
COLLEAGUE IS A CONNECTION, NOT A CLOSED FRIEND YOU CAN TALK FROM HEART-TO-HEART
Well, if you can find the BFF at work, lucky you! If not, be careful of what you say to people. At first, I was very annoyed when someone talked shit about me at work. I knew I shouldn't care, but I did. After an hour of strong conversation with my closed friend, it's made me realize that 'wait, I come here to 'work' not find any BFF' You know, the person who talks about you, or gossips about you, will never confront you. When I was told that the person at the office talked about me xyz, I was pissed off and said 'well, tell her to come to talk to my f**** face right here then' Eventually, she has never came. It doesn't mean that I stopped talking to her straight away. I still talk to her, only about work, and the rest is ' I don't know you' If you are having the same problem, just act cool.