Thursday, January 19, 2017

Why It's OK to Cut People Out of Your Life EP.2



Normally, I give people a chance like 2 times. Either I try adapting myself to that person, or he/she try getting along with me. If it doesn't work, then the friendship or relationship will never ever gonna happen. The more I grow up, the more I realize that it is OK to cut some people out of my life because; 1) Why waste the time to someone who doesn't deserve it 2) Learn how not to give a f*** is important for the state of mind. It may sounds like I don't care, but it is the truth, because I just can't make everyone to like me anyway. I was really frustrated when people read my messages, but never replied. Or simply stopped talking to me without any reasons. It made me think of the reason why it happened the way it was. This year, somehow will be different, and I have been doing pretty good so far! I am talking to you, from me to you, like a girl's convo here. 

*Beware of the strong language*



FRIENDSHIP ONLY COUNTS WHEN YOUR FRIENDS GENUINELY SUPPORT YOU. SO, WHAT IF THEY TALK SHIT? IT'S A SIGN THAT YOU ARE HAVING LOW-QUALITY FRIENDS


I've chosen quality over numbers. I mean, I make lots of connection with people, but I only share my secret to a few. I don't really give a shit if others think I'm mean or arrogant, once I stop talking or hanging out with them. It's just a waste of time really. Once I figure out that I don't really get along or, don't have anything in common to that person afterall, I always take a step back. You don't even have to think if he or she will hate you, because 1) We are all grown up 2) Life is too short 3) If he/she dislikes you, then who cares? Isn't it obvious though? I believe that there always be the way to get back together if people really care for each other. If not, then just fuck it girl. 




RELATIONSHIP NOT RELATIONSHIT, IF HE DOESN'T WORTH IT, THEN DON'T WASTE THE TIME


Don't try to hard to get along with someone if it doesn't feel that way. I am 27 year-old, so I'm not like 22 years old girl who can just having fun in the relationship. I mean, I am serious about the relationship because I am getting older, and I don't need a 'boy' in my life. I am not just dating to get to know the another one, but I date because I want to build the relationship, which leads to the word 'family' in the future. It makes me feel frustrated when someone seems to interested but disappears at the end. Like, c'mon why the f*** you wanna talk to me anyway? If he is a cry baby, or seem like he will never be able to responsible for anything, you know he's not the father of your child. 




COLLEAGUE IS A CONNECTION, NOT A CLOSED FRIEND YOU CAN TALK FROM HEART-TO-HEART



Well, if you can find the BFF at work, lucky you! If not, be careful of what you say to people. At first, I was very annoyed when someone talked shit about me at work. I knew I shouldn't care, but I did. After an hour of strong conversation with my closed friend, it's made me realize that 'wait, I come here to 'work' not find any BFF' You know, the person who talks about you, or gossips about you, will never confront you. When I was told that the person at the office talked about me xyz, I was pissed off and said 'well, tell her to come to talk to my f**** face right here then' Eventually, she has never came. It doesn't mean that I stopped talking to her straight away. I still talk to her, only about work, and the rest is ' I don't know you' If you are having the same problem, just act cool. 





23 comments :

  1. I love this post. It's so true - every single word! Love it!

    The Cassie Paige
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  2. Preach!!! Totally agree.

    Alya / moorizZLA xx

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  3. I agree so much with you!!!! I also love your outfit!

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  4. I loved your post! Even you vocabulary! hahahahah
    I suffered a lot for relationships with friends, maybe I should had read this when I was a preteenager, I could may be very useful, because I didn't distinguish a friend from a colleague, and friends who didn't give anything for me and I didn't saw it at time...

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  5. Girl, I totally agree! I find myself cutting friends out of my life as I grow older. No use having toxic people around, just a couple of good, old friends will suffice!

    xoxo, Cinddie
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  6. Fantastic post, I very like it :)

    https://www.instagram.com/ilijac/
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  7. Hey gorgeous, I loved your look. And what you write it's true, sometimes its exhausting to have toxic relations in your life.



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  8. Love this post babe - so true!!


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  9. I totally agree. Love the way you write. We don't want to be the sufferer for man's cheapness.

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  10. I'm learning to cut people off if I'm not feeling them anymore either. I did cut off a bff of over 10yrs and I'm at peace with that decision. I'm also all for work is work, not a place to find friendships. You look lovely Gail and you always reel out such wise words!

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  11. Dear Gail, yes to each word of this post! Honestly, there are in sum not really a little amount of people who played for a while a huge role in my life but now I don't meet them. When I see it becomes difficult or no more satisfying I try to reduce or even cancel these contacts. Love as usual your super cool look!
    xx Rena
    www.dressedwithsoul.com

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  12. I adore this post. I've always believed it's fine to cut people out if you need to. No one needs an unhappy relationship of any kind!

    Amber - amberelb.com

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  13. haha relationship not relationshit. I haven't heard of that one before, I like it. :)
    Yeah, toward the end of last year I really needed to step away from one of my friendships. It was touchy for a bit there, but it worked out so much better, having that distance and later understanding, we can go back to pleasant acquaintances, with a lot more distance now. So worth all the trouble and bruised ego. In the long run.

    XX JENELLE
    WWW.INSPIRINGWIT.COM

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  14. Sincerely agree with everything you've written, plus you look good.

    Bernie, xx
    The Style Fanatic

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  15. Love your clutch and you dress!! Big Xx Susanne - http://bagatyou.com

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  16. Yesss girl preach! I agree that as we get older, it's easier to cut out relationships and accept that not everyone will be your BFF. And so true about work relationships- you never know what will get back to other colleagues :)

    Rachel xx
    http://www.thedailyluxe.net

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  17. I love your straight-talking attitude to friendships Gail! I feel the same way and I think that it becomes much more about quality than quantity as we get older :)

    aglassofice.com
    x

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  18. Love this post and how real you are! I'm 21 and think the exact same thing, especially at work!!

    www.madsblog.co.uk

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  19. you look so stylish and mod..stunning look

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  20. i 100% agree, if someone isn't bringing anything positive into your life and especially is somene's making you miserable, it's completely okay to cut them out. i feel like you realize this more and more as you get older, and i find mself trying to surround myself with people i love and who make me feel more valued and positive. also, i'm really liking this outfit. this dress/tshirt, hat and bag combination looks amazing on you! xx

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