Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Why You Should Stop Comparing Yourself to Others


Yesterday, I finally had a chance to just sit down and read a lot of blogs written by random bloggers I discovered on the Instagram. Surprisingly, more than 60% of the posts I read were just not right. "Something's wrong with this blogging industry." said to myself while spending time going through several posts online. Though, I am really an optimistic person, I still tried to put myself in their shoes just to get the idea of why and how they comparing themselves to other people, which lead to negative and depressive attitude obviously..It is normal to compare ourselves to others because we are a human-being, but going overboard is not the ideal. I look at myself, think about a number of followers I have on social media, and that's it. Basically, I really don't give a f*** about the figures because life is too short for this shit. If you are comparing yourself, also your life to the visual on the social platform, you are going nowhere in this industry. This habit needs to stop.


IT ONLY MAKES YOU FEEL WORSE

Seriously, I have been there. The point when I looked at myself, measured The Equinox Fashion and felt horrible about my life, compared to others. I know how it feels, and I don't really like it. This deep down jealousy only makes us feel worse to the worst. We wish we had this and that like other famous digital influencers, or fashion bloggers, but reality is the moment we are living now. What's the point of comparison? Is it gonna make us feel good? Or is the thing we wish to have is gonna happen tomorrow? No, not tomorrow, but maybe in the future if we really work hard and put every single effort in everything.

Girls, don't hurt your feelings like this, trust me it's not really worth the time to feel that way. 


FOCUS ON YOURSELF

We start our blogs by ourselves, so we should continue on focusing on our goals. If you start writing this online platform just to be famous, well where is the happiness? Instead of wasting time thinking about this and that, we should spend our precious time thinking how to improve ourselves, or even how to develop our blogs in order to become more professional. Nothing comes easily, but I strongly believe in the power of 'effort' There's no magic to make the dream come true. We wish we had that magic wand, but we don't. So, the only option is to 'try' and only focus on 'yourself' Working in your normal pace, there's no need to be rush or anything. Just go with the flow, and keep tracking your progress. Eventually, it's all about how to deal with the distractions, while accomplishing the goals. 







32 comments :

  1. Love that jacket so much !

    Sara,
    www.thecrimeofashion.com

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  2. I love the glasses! Lovely outfit :)

    Sophie | DenimMondays

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  3. You're sending out such a good message with this post Gail - nothing good can come from comparing ourselves to others! I love that you said 'go with the flow', that's a message I've been brought up with :) Have a lovely week...

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice
    x

    ps. I adore your jacket, how perfect is it?!

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    1. 'Go with the flow' is the best thing to do when you are focusing on something. It prevents you from going overboard, or stressful moment :)

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  4. stunning,you look awesome
    I love that jacket,its so beautiful

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  5. Dear Gail, I'm convinced comparing makes one sick! Therefore I don't compare myself with others - for me this never makes sense. Not only in the virtual blogging world but also in the real world. For me the simple rule is valid: if I want something I do what I can for it. Then it works or not :) Like you in your very cool street style look!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    www.dressedwithsoul.com

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    1. I do agree with you, in real life there are a lot of people who love comparing themselves to others, which the truth is..that behavior leads them to nowhere :)

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  6. I like to beat to my own drum the world looks more beautiful seeing different people with their own unique talent. You look cool in this outfit love the hat.

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    1. I still remember when you said you love to focus on yourself, and I think that's a very good thing :)

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  7. Hi Gail :) This post really resonated with me- it sounds silly but I always end up comparing myself to other bloggers and their followings and end u feeling really bad :/ My partner told me to compare my stats to my own in the past and how much they've improved, which I think is definitely a better way of looking at it! Your outfit is beautiful as always- loving the shearling jacket and those retro sunnies are amazing! I'd love to raid your wardrobe :P

    Rachel xx
    http://www.thedailyluxe.net

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    1. That's what I do! I have my old/messy scrapbook to write down the numbers and progress in each month!

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  8. I agree with you. If you campare yourself with others it will just turn into depression. So one must love oneself. Love your sunnies.
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  9. Comparing only leads to depression. I like to mine my own business and don't compare. You look great in this look.
    www.effortlesslady.com

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  10. Lovely words! I wrote a post about this recently too, after reading a book called #struggles that talks about how toxic comparison can be.

    We need to remember that we compare out behind the scenes with someone else's highlight reel, and so it's not a fair (or productive!) comparison to make.


    Away From The Blue Blog

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    1. That book sounds interesting! I will find one too :)

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  11. You are so right! Never compare yourself to others...everyone is unique!

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  12. The pictures are so amazing! I invite you to join my Giveaway:

    http://theprintedsea.blogspot.de/2015/11/phone-case-giveaway

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  13. I agree! I find myself comparing myself to others sometimes but then I think it doesn't matter and I think about how far I've come in everything and it makes me feel better :) Your coat is so cute! :) xx

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  14. You really know how to write well don't you Gail? You seriously are an inspiration and I always love to read your blog as everytime I visit I feel reinspired! (If that even makes sense hahaa!) Either way, you change my way of looking at things slightly each time I read your content. Keep at it girl!

    Isobel x
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    1. you are making me smile right now Isobel! I am glad that at least my words can help people feel good about themselves :)

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  15. Love your outfit dear! About the comparing,i have a way of thinking that no matter how much followers i have i'm still happy with how much i accomplished when i compare the old me from the beggining to the new me where i am now :) The worst thing you can do to yourself is to compare with other people who you think are more succesfull than you are,that just leads nowhere :)

    I'm following you on GFC :)

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    1. Going with your own pace is better than rushing, isn't it? :)

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  16. che bello il giubbino in questo modo

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  17. Powerful messages here Gail! I completely agree that we all should stop comparing ourselves to other people.

    www.adressgirl.com

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  18. you are so right honey! I've been there too, I know how you feel. great post as usual :)
    www.samanthamariko.com

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  19. What a really beautiful post!

    xoxo;
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  20. Love the post, Gail! Very honest & straightforward, & I'm totally on the same page as you :D

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  21. Hi, Gail!
    I am very happy reading your blog on this early morning:)
    You have great power, and it can give many people positive passion!!!
    Thank you very much♡

    akiko

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  22. I'm in love of your jacket !!!

    http://heilani.blogspot.fr/

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  23. Haha, great photos! You have a nice sense of style!

    Love,
    Diana
    www.thebeargirl.com

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