Monday, April 25, 2016

How Not To Feel Overwhelmed by Social Media


Again and again, that I am feeling overwhelmed by the social media. Have you ever felt like this before? The moment when you feel what is the point of staying presence on Instagram, selecting the best photo to upload, checking the numbers of followers, and feeling down when those figures are not going up, even someone has decided to disconnect with you for some reasons. No offence, and nothing personal, I think it is just one of those days when I (or we) are feeling crushed by the power of the online game. It would be a lie to say that I feel happy all the time when I use Instagram, but sometimes I don't feel that way. Occasionally, I have to force myself to post something online, no matter how shitty I feel. I LOVE social media, and I appreciate everything that has happened to my life. However, I need to step back a little bit in order to give a space for myself to breath. For those who feel the same way, here are the tips I have found effective for me. At least, they have uplifted my spirit, and I can take the weight out of the shoulders.


WHEN YOU FEEL PRESSURED FROM SOCIAL MEDIA, USE IT LESS


Some may say that they have never had any issues with the online world, while some may say they have never taken it seriously, so why they have to feel pressured? However, the thing is once you take it seriously, it can devour your feelings. Either intentional, or unintentional, it happens. Where the pressure comes from? For mine, there is a lot! For example, followers, aesthetic, etc. Although, you may say you do not compare yourself to others, when you keep checking others, deep down the competitive mode arises. I hate that friggin' app, which we can check who have followed or unfollowed us. Obviously, it makes me feel great when people love what I have been doing, but when unfollowing happens, it just makes me questions if they don't like me or something? Or even when the person we know suddenly just unfollow us, personal issue always takes place here. Is she mad at me for something? What's wrong with her? What have I done? Did I say something wrong? ETC. Or when someone doesn't comment you back, you may just wanna keep checking the news feed and see if he/she posts something new yet? Like a f*** stalker, yet it happens, and it is normal. If yes, why not commenting back? Like these weird emotional situations is just annoying. 




I have been there, and it's driving me insane. There's nothing personal, but it just kept me thinking, bugging me, made me question random stuff. Therefore, the best advice I could possibly give is to use it less. I mean it, instead of stay online 24/7, just give a time for yourself. I used to check my Instagram constantly, and I felt like an online freak. So, up until now, I have tried to check my IG less. Let's say 3 times a day (well I am trying...) and that's it. I really can't keep up with all the things that have happened in my life. You know what, by doing this, it makes me feel a bit better. At least, I don't have to worry who's gonna follow, or unfollow me. If they follow, then unfollow in the next day for the number sake, then just fuck it. Life is more than that. 




Trust me, you will feel better once you learn how to keep the balance between the real world, and online one. Learn how to control your mind game, and you will be able to live happily. 







54 comments :

  1. I love your posts, and I can say that I can relate to what you are saying right now, and I've spent a while to learn how to distance myself from social media whenever I feel that a should. Great post as always!

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  2. I've totally struggled with this stuff before! It's hard not to fall into the deep vortex of social media's pull, but like you said, you have to step back and really consider why it exists and why you do it. I decided that I'm just going to do it because I love creating something. I stopped checking who follows/unfollows and simply decided to let things happen organically. I also stopped getting too caught up if I can't post for a bit. It's really freeing!
    xo
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  3. Your dress is super cute!
    Fortunately the only social platform I'm in is blogger - I don't have Facebook, Instagram ... Of this cause I so far feel fortunately not overwhelmed by social media :)
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  4. I am useless when it comes to social media, it makes me so nervous and maybe it's for all the reasons you mention and my lack of confidence but maybe I should start using it more and remember everything you have said and not feel so nervous about it. You look fab here, this is such a fun outfit :) xx

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  5. Gosh, you look absolutely charming in the pix! Love the colourful prints, Gail! xoxo

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  6. Love the dress. I guess its important to draw a line. While social media is great, we need to look around and live as well.

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  7. Great tips, and lovely dress you are wearing!

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  8. This post fits me 100%..social media can be a b***h sometimes :)) such a fun outfit you have, love it!
    Xox

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  9. Great tips, very timely! Thanks for sharing!
    xx
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  10. Great post, you have a very nice blog! :D

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  11. Really nice! Hope get a chance to read my latest post. Have a great day.

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  12. omg the print on your two pieces is adorable!

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  13. everyone definitely needs to find a balance between their real and online life, so as not to let social media etc take over. i feel like i go through phases and sometimes am on social media all the time and then could go months without! and i love this outfit, you look incredible! xx

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  14. Very nice article thanks for sharing !

    Sara,
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  15. I always step back and take a break is healthy mentally. I never focus in how many followers I have nor do I celebrate if I reach a specific number I just appreciate my legit followers thats it. You look fabulous in that cute dress.

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  16. I've always been one of those people who are just obsessed with scrolling through Instagram and Twitter feeds. I stopped using social Twitter and Instagram completely over the last 2 months, but I ended up just starting to use them again recently because I really missed them!
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  17. I love the dress! It's so cute!



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  18. Your juimpsuite look so cute. I love it.
    Great post dear and wishing you a lovely day!

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    xx

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  19. Totally digging this fun look! You are so cute! =)
    - Cielo
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  20. wow such a lovely colourful look
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  21. Your sunglasses are so cute and that dress is so different, we're really loving this look on you!

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  22. Thanks for your tips, and all of photos are amazing

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  23. this dress is super cute babe! you do a really good job maintaining all your social media!
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  24. OMG. So pretty. I like!

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  25. Great look!
    LOVe your dress!

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  26. Love this look!
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  27. Cute dress! lovely look!

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  28. A very thought-provoking post Gail, and one I'm sure we can all relate to! Social media has both its positives and negatives, but when the negatives start outweighing the positives, it's time to take a step back and refresh - as you've said :)

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  29. Loved this post! Beautiful look!

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  30. Omg love it, what a cool dress! You rock <3

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  31. I love the way how expressed yourself about social media. But the good thinks is you force yourself to post something and honestly keep doing girl because you are so talent and always came up with this great and inspired outfits. By the way love your dress :).
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  32. rad print in that dress! :D

    Have a great day!
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  33. You look amazing! Gorgeous girl & look!
    I can totally related babe, it happens to all of us! I don't like social media sometimes, it's frustrating. That's why I have the blog you know? I don't check out those numbers so often and I just write what's on my mind and what I want to share with the world.
    I'm happy if I only help one person!
    Keep being awesome!
    XO
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  34. Awesome sunnies and great tips! Thanks for sharing and be sure to check out our latest post and awesome GIVEAWAY!

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  35. This post is on point! I alway try to keep the balance between the two however I cant help but check my instagram every 5 minutes :)

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  36. This is such a thought provoking post. Social media is such a double edged sword, it's great for so many things but it also subjects you to things you shouldn't see, nasty comments or making you feel down. I try hard to maintain a healthy relationship with it! xx

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  37. Girl, I'm the same way! I totally struggle with what to post, am I posting enough...how come I didn't get as many likes as I thought I would and blah blah. The great thing about meeting other bloggers is that they feel this way too! We're not alone haha ;)

    stay styled,

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  38. Coooool oufit and so comfy footwear, I try to be more relaxed with them and just try to don't touch the laptop or phone (for a while)
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  39. I love this post. Love the dress too! xx

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  40. I love this post Gail! you've inspired me to write a post about this and give my own opinion on this part of social media on how I feel about it. Gotta say you look so cute in that 2 piece set!

    Isobel x

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  41. Wow, I love your outfit! Also a great topic to write about :)
    xx Selin

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  42. Your truth & your honesty is so admirable. Dope how you just put the real shit out there. I'm sure everyone can relate.

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  43. Love the dress.
    you look so pretty!

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